The above photo is everywhere in January. Friends share it on social media, people joke about them over drinks in corner pubs, and still others will laugh in your face when you mention the phrase “New Year’s Resolution”. Or there is the subtle, passive aggressive mention of how resolutions are pointless and that you should work on “lifestyle changes” instead.
Those of us who make resolutions for the New Year are obviously trying to better ourselves, make important changes in our lives, and quite honestly, doing it the best way we know how. Granted, most of our resolutions will end up in failure, but guess what? At least we’re making an attempt and we may end up being successful with a few of them. But at least we’re searching for ways to better our lives and feel good about ourselves. Just because your “lifestyle changes” were successful for you in 2018, doesn’t mean they were successful in 2017 or even further back. Everything takes time and sometimes what we think we want to achieve in the course of a year can change overnight with unexpected opportunities.
For 2018 my one and only resolution was to get my health in order. You may look at me and think that I failed at my resolution because I seem to be the same tattooed sasquatch I was in 2017. But what you don’t see is the healthier eating I do on a daily basis which resulted in better digestion and food absorption, my 20+ pound weight loss, and the daily effort I make at some sort of physical activity. You also don’t know about the countless trips I’ve made to my doctor, the blood I’ve had drawn, and the continued tests to find out the cause of some health issues I’m having. When you heard I wanted to get healthier in 2018 but you’re seeing what looks like the exact same person I was at the beginning of the year, you’ve assumed I’ve failed. Instead I was very successful. Do you know how hard it is to change your eating habits? Do you know how hard it is to successfully lose 20+ pounds? Do you know how hard it is to continue to seek medical help even though it’s very difficult to explain your symptoms? To me, those are small victories for the larger success.
Every person who says they want to change something in the New Year will be met with a barrage of jokes, sarcasm, and people who offer no support at all. If your friends and family don’t support you, how do you expect someone to overcome their obstacles? Most feel defeated before they even start.
Gym memberships are said to soar in January, but by April interest wavers and people no longer go. Is it because they quit the gym and their resolution to better health, or is it because now that the weather is nice they are outside with their friends and family hiking, swimming, biking, or mountain climbing. Why do we automatically assume it’s failure?
To all of those individuals who want to change something this year, let me be one of the first people to offer you support. Want to talk about your struggle? Hit me up. Need ideas to fulfill your resolution? Hit me up. Want to vent to me about the assholes who aren’t supporting your changes? Let me know. Just know this, I see you. I hear you. And I support you. And by all means, celebrate the small victories, be proud of your effort, find people who will support you, and last, but definitely not least, ignore those who find pleasure in seeing your failure.
Until next time,